I have just recently graduated from college. And boy did I ever learn a lesson or two. Actually, make that many many lessons. First of all, there aren’t there many jobs out there for a B.S. graduate in Psychology. Especially when I’m trying to do something medical. So, I have decided to throw away my plans in Neuropsychology and dive in to Physician’s Assistant. Let’s just say, with no medical background whatsoever, I’ve just added an extra 3 years into my educational career. Gah.

Whining aside, I did learn a very important lesson and that is the lesson of friendship and to learn about people in general. Although I must say, those hours spent in Psych has gotten me to naturally observe people in a different way. It has come to no surprise that at this point in my life (at almost about quarter of my lifespan), friends have come and go. It used to hurt me when my friends would suddenly disappear. Change. Breakaway. But now I understand. It wasn’t my fault. It wasn’t theirs either. But our environment simply separated us.

The thing is, people’s personality don’t change. We are born with a personality. This is the first thing I learned in Psych. Just think about it, babies are born with a temperament. Some babies are cranky, and some are just adorably quiet. And we carry that personality with us for the rest of our lives. People’s behaviors, however, do change. When people say, “they’ve changed” — what they really mean is that their behaviors have changed. But really, it’s still the same person. Still the same personality. And, it has come to no surprise where that change has come from: their environment.

So I have observed the many people who’ve touched my heart and left me. Friends who made false promises. To always be there when you need me. To be your crying shoulder. I’m sure that I am not the only person who have experience this before. These individuals did not change who they are, but their environment has changed them. People learn something new, believe in different things and want to be in a fresh surroundings. It’s just unfortunate that I was not a part of that.

However, the many individuals who have stayed through thick and thin, have shown that there are no false promises, instead, only brighter days ahead. I’ve said this many times before, we are humans, and therefore we are social beings. We need people to always be around us and be there for us through no matter what. But there is no need to feel lonely when those whom you’ve trusted have walked away. Because if you not already have someone else to trust and be your leaning shoulder, you will only find new ones. Without the need to stress or fuss. I have learned, that if you stop wondering where your “friends” have gone, suddenly, you see that beyond the gloomy, lonely days, new people will enter your lives, and bring a fresh bundle of friendship.

To all of my darling friends. Thank you for always being there for me.

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